I have often thought, “How can a person survive the abuse they endured and recover to live a healthy whole life?”
Then I heard these words and had to share it with you all.
“You survived the abuse.
You’re going to survive the recovery.”
Those two simple sentences hold so much depth, weight, and truth within them. Just sit still for a moment and let those words sink into your heart and mind. No matter what stage of healing you are in, let me say this directly to you my new friend, “You survived the abuse. You’re going to survive the recovery.”
And now here is one more truth we need to hear and tell ourselves when we are on the road to recovery.
Healing is a process.
And as much as we don’t want to hear it, healing can be a longer process than what we desire. I was sexually abused as a child at the hands of multiple men and it has taken me years and years to fully recover from all that the abusers stole from me. I wish I could have gone to my first counseling session and leave saying, ” WOW! I am forever healed.” But that my friend did not happen. Dealing with the deep multi-layers of abuse can take longer to heal from than when the actual incident occurred. No matter what abuse you have endured, recovery is a process, because…
Healing. Takes. Time.
Don’t despise your rawness during the process of healing.
Don’t isolate yourself.
Don’t hate the healing process itself.
Do get help with a Christian counselor.
Do have accountability.
Do get involved in Bible Study groups.
Do dig into God’s Holy Word.
Much of my recovery that was just me and Jesus. I would pray, journal and write to the Lord, all that was going on in my heart and mind. I had to surrender and allow the Lord go to the depths of the pain to reveal and pull out all the hurt, pain, anger, resentment, abuse, self-pity, denial, agony, hate, self-hatred, and disappointment.
Healing. Takes. Time.
Give yourself grace.
Go for a long walk.
Forgive your abusers.
Pour into others.
Listen to Worship music.
Talk with people who are safe.
Be thankful for the good things.
Most of all talk with the Lord- your Maker, about everything. Yes, everything! The good, the bad and the ugly. He cares. He loves you deeply. He wants to hear from you. Pour your wounded heart out to Him in this very moment. It’s never too late.
Soak in these words of healing today from our Lord….
“Heal me, O Lord, and I shall be healed; save me, and I shall be saved, for you are my praise.” – Jeremiah 17:14
“Fear not, for I am with you; be not dismayed, for I am your God; I will strengthen you, I will help you, I will uphold you with my righteous right hand.” – Isaiah 41:10
“He heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds.” – Psalm 147:3
“Be gracious to me, O Lord, for I am languishing; heal me, O Lord, for my bones are troubled.” – Psalm 6:2
“You keep track of all my sorrows. You have collected all my tears in Your bottle. You have recorded each one in your book.” – Psalm 56:8
I would love to join you in prayer during your healing process. If you would like that, comment and leave your name and prayer request below. I will pray to the LORD for your complete healing my friend.